The History of the Best Man and the Maid of Honor – “伴郎伴娘的由來”

By Barbara Dimoush

The usual history of marriage begins with the theme of “marriage by capture”. In early times weddings were not about love and family, but rather about acquisition and conquer. Based on these early marriages, it is likely that the concept of a “best man” emerged first, although he probably wasn’t called that, but instead was merely a co-conspirator, a warrior, and a thief. The first “ushers” or “groomsmen” were probably like a small militia, keeping the kidnapped bride’s family at bay and helping the groom to escape with his new wife. As weddings became less brutal and became governed by the church and the state, the “Best Man” took on the role as a witness for the wedding, ensuring the union was legal.

你可知道在歷史上婚姻的開始是以”捕獲”為大前題?在遠古時候婚姻根本談不上為愛情或家庭而是幾乎只是獲得和征服,簡單一點說是一味靠搶。”伴郎”這角色於是就在歷史上出現,其實說穿了他們只是同謀,賊甚至強盜;為新郎強搶新娘並且協助他們離開。但隨著人類越來越文明,婚禮已變得不再那麼殘酷暴力,並成為由教會和國家管轄;伴郎的功能已經變更為見證婚禮及協助新郎了。

 

 

Bridesmaids and the maid of honor became part of the traditional wedding ceremony once weddings were planned. Many early weddings were held at the bride’s home and the first “maid of honor” was likely a reliable and trustworthy family servant who attended to the bride’s needs in the days preceding the wedding. Her duties likely included helping the bride get dressed, making the bridal wreath, decorating for the wedding feast, and preparing the trousseau. Later, like the best man and the groomsmen, the bridesmaids and the maid of honor would have been called into duty as witnesses for the ceremony, helping to validate its authenticity.

大部份古時的婚禮都是在新娘家舉行的,而”伴娘”很可能是一位新娘的可靠和值得信賴的家庭僕人負責在婚禮前幾天開始協助新娘打點一切。她的責任範圍包括幫助新娘穿上衣服、製造新娘花環、裝飾婚禮盛宴、準備嫁妝等。而現今的伴娘已跟伴郎一樣負責見證婚禮及協助婚禮了,並且由僕人變為新娘一位密友擔任。

 

Today, the tradition of the wedding party continues on. Many of the original duties performed by the best man and the maid of honor are no longer relevant in modern society, but they both still serve many functions in the modern wedding. Both the best man and the maid of honor are traditionally the primary witnesses for legal documents like the marriage certificate. It is still customary for the maid of honor to tend to the bride during the wedding, helping to straighten the bride’s veil and train, and to hold the bouquet. In most weddings, the best man stands alongside the groom during the ceremony, a tradition which is reminiscent of the earliest weddings when the best man’s primary duty was to ensure the safety of the groom during the capture of his bride.

Luckily, bride stealing is no longer a common practice. But it is fun to know the history of some of our Western wedding traditions.

時至今日,伴郎和伴娘在一個婚禮上均擔當重要角色,他們都是結婚證書及法律文件的主要證人;伴娘更於新婚禮過程中,幫助整理新娘的面紗,照料花球等等。在大多數的婚禮中,伴郎都會站在新郎旁邊,有如全程守護新郎新娘確保一切安全。

幸運的是,搶新娘已不再是一種常見的做法。伴郎和伴娘在婚禮上的功能當然已完全不同,但肯定的就是他們都是一個婚禮不可或缺的。

 

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